Finding true love with a soulmate is not all that it’s cracked up to be. It’s more likely to be a case of “Help, I’ve found my soul mate!” In astrology, the 7th house is not just the house of marriage, it is also the house of open enemies. It is also opposed the 1st house of the physical self. Therefore the supposed “Soul mate” relationship is very often a tug of war on many levels. What may feel destined could also be a number of things. The beloved could be reflecting strongly back to you your animus or anima, what you are lacking in your chart, what you have disowned in your chart or, when the relationship turns sour, your worst demons.
With synastry, squares and challenging synastry aspects between a couple are karmic aspects and can be extremely challenging. These will usually enable you to “fast-track” your spiritual evolution by burning off a ton of ingrained karma. Often a soul mate comes into your life simply to do this, but it does not mean it is life long. Negative karma from the past can attract you even more strongly than positive karma. Hence those impossible, gut-wrenching, and often unrequited love affairs.
I don’t believe an Astrologer can or should ever tell you “This is the one”. It could be a one however, and astrology can certainly show you why you have been pulled together. You will also be able to see why you find it so hard to break up even if the relationship is making you miserable. Usually these are Moon/Saturn contacts. Looking at the charts individually first is crucial to see what each person can handle in a relationship. Some people just cannot take too much drama, others would be bored without it. Some may need a very cosy domestic 24/7 togetherness, while others crave space, so that a long distance romance might actually suit. Therefore it’s really rather pointless saying “Oh my Sun is conjunct his Moon, we are destined!” if one of you is a thrill seeker and the other likes vegging infront of the TV.
The Davison Chart
The Davison horoscope takes the midpoint in time between the couples birth-date. The co-ordinates are also half way. This is my speciality. I love Davisons because this chart actually exists physically, so one can take into account the fixed stars. I now use the Davison as my only composite chart, as it keeps things simple and for me they just work more than the composite mid -point chart. I have also found them to contain the most magic. This chart describes why you have been brought together and what lessons you have to learn in this lifetime.
Relationships are the best teacher and synastry aspects between the natal charts can show what type of lessons you are learning from each other. One of the most illuminating things to look out for, is when the partners important planets or points make a conjunction with the Sun, Moon, AC, Nodes or Vertex in the Davison chart. It shows how important the relationship is for each of them. It will reveal if one is more attached to the union than the other.
The fixed stars in the Davison can give us an idea past lives and karma that brought the couple together. With Soulmates it is usually very obvious. Symbols and themes will keep repeating themselves and a story will come out. The Nodes will often show the nature of the karmic contract. It is very important to look at the connections from the Davison to the couples natal charts. Strong indicators of many lives together and/or a karmic mission will be confirmed if the couple have conjunctions to the big 3 (Sun/Moon/AC). UPDATE! I believe that the Davison can show the nature of a third entity in the case of hyper-dimensional interference as explained in my Twin Flames or Hell Fires article.
You can also look further into synastry astrology in Best Synastry Aspects